Leadership is not about protecting a position or showing how smart you are, it’s about moving a cause/organization to some better place. It’s all about movement.
Can I do this?
Can I sustain this?
Can I take this across the finish line?
8 Critical Functions of Leadership
5 Intangibles of Leadership
How do people with less IQ and talent succeed more than others. A psychologist study
People with grit have long term tenacity
Use every last drop to move something ahead
Gritty people don’t quit, but can overcome whatever obstacle stands in their way
I think I can —> I thought I could.
Grit Assessment Test at willowcreek.com/survey
Can I develop grit?
Opposite of grit is ease.
Grit development demands difficulty.
Overcoming physical challenges is a way to grow grit. This overflows into other areas.
Most elite leaders volunteer for extra assignments and then kill it.
Don’t just deliver. Over deliver every time.
When senior leaders have grit, it creates a culture of grit.
Gritty organizations are unstoppable.
We must develop grit to be a great leader.
When there is a big
Blind spot: something someone believes they do well, but everyone else on the team knows this is not true.
All of us have 3.4 blind spots
How do we identify our blind spots?
– direct supervisor
– peers, friends, and colleagues
Knowing how your past is messing with your decision making today is crucial for today.
Growing in self-awareness demands feedback from others.
– People with high learning agility start figuring out what they need to do
– Resourceful people figure it out.
– So much of our growth of a leader
Can resourcefulness be developed?
Yes. But you must be put in places that are confused, dysfunctional, and failing to figure out a way forward.
– This is at the core of good leadership
– Self-sacrificing love has always been and will always be at the absolute core of leadership. Love changes people and cultures.
– Gallop: Do workers feel concern/love from their supervisor?
– The entire organization performs better.
The greatest of these is love.
Tear down the professional veils that keep your heart closed off from co-workers.
5) Sense of Meaning
– people understand the what & how
– the disconnect for most people is the why
Developing the why will become increasing important for organizations.
What is your white-hot why?
Bill Hybels’ is transformed lives.
7 Questions: Beyond Good to Great
1) What cause do you serve with level 5 ambition?
If you have a charismatic cause, you do not need a charismatic leader.
- Level 5 leader – personal humility with an utterly indomitable will. Service to a cause. Towering ambition. But putting it into something bigger and more important than we are.
- Ego Level 4 leaders inspire to follow them. Level 5 leaders point towards something else.
2) Will you settle to be a good leader or grow to be a great leader?
Leadership is not position, title, or personality. True leadership only exists if people follow when they would otherwise have the freedom to not follow.
True leadership is knowing what must be done & how to get it done.
Leadership is an art.
3) How can you reframe failure as growth, in pursuit of BHAG?
BHAG – Big, hairy, audacious goal.
What is the other side of the coin from success? It’s not failure. It’s growth.
4) How can you succeed by helping others succeed?
We succeed only at our very best only when we help others succeed.
Communal success is how we build meaning.
Passion, Constructed/Encoded for it, and Economic Opportunity = a win for what to do.
True creators stay in the game.
5) What is your personal hedgehog?
6) Will you build your unit not a pocket of greatness?
Every responsibility you get, do it with greatness. And focus on your unit. Figure out who should be on the right seat on the bus. Be rigorous, not ruthless. Take care of your people. Life is people.
Greatest leaders make an impact on people.
7) How will you change the lives of others?
Co-Founder of Pixar Animation Studios
– Difference between poor stories and good stories is that good stories understand a form and resonate with emotions.
– Every great film starts as an ugly baby.
Braintrust guidelines: peers talking to peers, in that room there is no power structure, vested interest in each other’s success, give and listen to good notes.
– magic: loss of ego in the room. Not judged on good/bad ideas.
Creativity is about solving problems. Coming up with solutions is a creative act.
Give & Take: A New Perspective
Givers | Matchers | Takers
Research: Givers are the worst performers. Run out of time to get their own work done.
You can have the values of the giver, but not actually be a giver. This is in the eye of the beholder.
Takers fall the quickest.
If you are a matcher, you want justice.
Matchers big temptation is gossip to try to bring down takers.
Takers hate other takers.
Givers are also the best performers.
Givers among top 25% and givers on the bottom too.
Givers fail in the short run, but succeed in the long run.
How can you build a culture of successful givers?
1) Get right people on the bus & keep the wrong people off the bus.
So who do you hire? Givers. But…
– effective screening is not about bringing in the giver, it’s about making sure you don’t get the takers
Spotting a taker
2) Redefine giving
– if you want to be a successful giver, be a small giver.
One of the best things to do as a leader is to ask for help.
Cap volunteer at about 100 hours per year
It’s not like battleship like it is for takers, it’s how can I become the waves that help others boats sail.
When we reach out to someone and they don’t respond, we respond in anger, shame.
#1 shame trigger for men: appearance of weakness
#1 shame trigger for women: body image
#1 perpetrator of shaming to men is women.
It is an “unholy act” to take what someone shared in vulnerability and use it against them negatively.
Our response is crucial.
Talk about the story you are making up in your head.
Our brain is hard-wired to make up a story that is happening in hardship. If we can give our brain a story in that moment, it gives us a neurological response that we like.
What do transformational leaders have in common?
1) They do discomfort.
2) They have absolute emotional awareness about their own life and about the people who work around them.
– an emotion dictates behavior
– help me understand
3) Curiosity is a great tool for leaders.
You can choose courage or you can choose comfort. You can’t have both.
Leaders have to be willing to rumble with hard topics. You have to be willing to be uncomfortable.
The bravest among us will always be the brokenhearted.
The innovators will always know failure.
If you are brave enough, often enough, you are going to fail.
There is nothing more dangerous to the cynics who are willing to fail, willing to know disappointment because we are willing to get back up. We must lean on each other. The risk is worth it.
Leadership and Ethics on Wall Street
1) Recognize differences, disagreements, and debates are strengths.
2) To prove diversity, we need to start asking a different question.
– We usually ask who the best person for the job, but we usually think of ourselves.
– Question should be do we have the strongest team in place?
3) Really live with values
4) Women are tired.
5) Watch the micro-lessons.
– we give less feedback to women because we are scared they are going to cry
Resilience is key for a leader.
So is gratitude.
My worst day is better than so many other people’s best day.
Leading with Leftovers
How do we lead with leftovers?
John 6 – Jesus feeds the 5,000
Jesus asks them a “dumb question”. How far could the fish and loaves go?
2 fish, 5 loaves.
– power of a dumb idea – you never know when God could use the dumb idea of “2 fish, 5 loaves” to stand. It seems like a dumb idea. But a dumb idea plus God’s hand = life transformation.
ex/ Bakery shop for people in the hood by a priest. Sounds like a dumb idea, but now employs hundreds of underprivileged men
What if you need to pack your lunch? What do you need to bring for God to show up and do His miracle?
The boy packs his lunch, gives it to Jesus, and then moves out of the way.
We must pack what we have.
Imagine being the little boy and what God did in that moment. He had to be in awe.
Our problem is we give it to God, then we have to get out of the way. Then we may experience the wonder and awe of God.
Then there were 12 baskets of leftovers.
What would it mean for you at the end of your day to have something left? For your wife, kids, etc?
Sitting on empty is not a sign of great work ethic, it’s a sign that you are missing God’s abundance in your life.
We don’t have to live in the scarcity. Jesus offers hope. The Father is rich. The food is plenty. The sufficiency of Christ has made us able to give us an abundance in God.
We don’t have to leave it all on the field, because Jesus has already made it complete. It is finished.